At some point during their development, all babies will experience separation anxiety. This is very common, completely normal and demonstrates that your child has a healthy and loving attachment to you. However, it can be difficult for parents to cope with a child who gets panicky and upset when they are not around. The good news is, for the vast majority of babies, separation anxiety happens in phases and will not last forever.
What is separation anxiety?
Around the age of 10 months, you may notice that your child becomes restless when he is away from you. Whenever you move away and disappear from the field of view or assign someone else to watch, even if you are in the next room, he becomes upset and starts crying. When you put him to sleep, he refuses to let you go and he may wake up during the night looking for you. This developmental stage is known as Separation Anxiety. Your child has not yet learned that parents are still there and will return, even if they are in the next room. This stage reaches its peak between 10 to 18 months, and continues to exist until 2-4 years.
Tips: How to make the separations easier
Play is important for the mental, physical and psycho-social development of children. Through play, the child has the chance to explore the world, interact with others, connect and bond with parents, express and control emotions, develop symbolic and problem-solving abilities, and practice emerging skills. Research shows the links between play and foundational capacities, such as memory, self-regulation, oral language abilities, social skills and success in school (NAEYC, n.d.).
Play and child development
Do you know the alphabet? No, not the one with the letters. The one that is about you, your behaviour towards your children. Here is a list of twenty four tips, as many as the letters of the alphabet, that will help you strengthen your relationship with your child and keep a strong bond with him/her.
Children learn to love the sound of language before they even notice the existence of printed words on a page. Reading, and the love for reading, begins at home and therefore parents should act as reading role models for their children. Parent involvement in early literacy is directly connected to later academic achievement. Early learning research emphasizes the importance of daily adult/child reading time, as well as having books at home for children to help them be academically ready for kindergarten.
According to scientific research, reading helps the child to:
- develop his ability to use the language
- practice his memory
- stimulate and enrich his imagination
- cultivate critical thinking and creative search
- build a strong relationship with parents
- ensure a balanced emotional development
- cultivate moral values
- improve his ability to concentrate
- study easier his lessons at school
- and gain greater willingness to learn
Therefore, it would be good to read to our child 20 minutes a day, every day regardless of the age of your child! It is ultimately the best investment for our child’s future!
So, the more kids read, the better readers they become and the more they learn about the world around them. Children who do not read usually have poor reading skills. Reading is a struggle for them, and they avoid it whenever possible. Thus, it is really helpful to find out the reasons for not liking or wanting to read.
- It’s boring. If your children have this response to reading texts from school, you can always expose them to another kinds of reading at home tailored to their needs and interests. If you want to get you children motivated to read, give them choices. Let them choose the book.
- It’s too hard. For some children, reading is a difficult process. If your child is facing difficulties in reading, talk with his/her teacher and ask about how you can find interesting books and materials written at the reading level of your child.
- It’s not important. Often children do not understand how reading can be useful or relevant to their lives. So, give them plenty of reasons, find books that interest them and teach them by your example.
- It’s no fun. For some children, especially those who have difficulty reading, books cause anxiety and frustration. Take the pressure off reading, let your child see you enjoying reading and he will enjoy it too. Extend the positive experience that a child may have after reading a book. For example, if the child enjoyed a book about dinosaurs, continue with a visit to the natural history museum.
The following material is created by Colorín Colorado, a national multimedia project that offers a wealth of bilingual, research-based information, activities, and advice for educators and families of English language learners (ELLs). The suggested tips are divided by age, however, many of them can be used with children at various ages and stages and can be applied not only for the English language but for every language that your child speaks or learns.